Richard Coleman Lavender

Born in Nashville, Tennessee on June 12, 1946

Departed on December 14, 2018 and resided in Franklin, Tennessee

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Richard Coleman Lavender- Age 72, Nashville, December 14, 2018

Preceded in death by his parents, Roderick and Ruby Lavender; siblings, Vivian Lavender Bradley, Roderick Dexter Lavender, Jr., Thomas David Lavender and Carol Lavender Zech.

Survived by his wife, Ruth McDowell Lavender; children, John Marc Lavender and Amy Catherine Lavender; step-sons, Richard Marc Cook and Robert Miles Cook; eight grandchildren.

A memorial service will be held at a later date.

11 Comments to Richard Coleman Lavender

  1. Carlene Waller
    December 16, 2018 1:56 pm

    “According to God’s wise counsel thou walked ahead, and we will follow you on your path.”

    A wonderful and loving husband, father and uncle has transitioned to his new heavenly home. You are going to be so missed Uncle Richard. I hear your voice in my mind saying “hey Miss Carlene or hey Miss Terri.” We now have only memories of the love you left behind and it will stay with us always. May this most difficult of life’s lessons bring all family members together. Life is too short for individual personalities to keep loved ones apart.

    Until it is our turn to join you in the everlasting love of Jesus in the place GOD has prepared for those that carry HIM in their hearts this is not good-bye; it’s we’ll see you soon.

    For Ruth, John, and all of those who love you so, here are some words I hope will bring comfort.

    “As you go through this day, know that I am gently protecting you.
    I am as near to you as your breath, as close to you as your heartbeat.
    I can see the fragile state of your emotions.
    I know how close to the surface your tender feelings are.
    I am aware that the wick of your spirit’s inner light is flickering in the winds of your dilemma.

    But you are my child, and I am on your side today.
    I will hold you in my love until you are strong again.
    Do not be troubled or afraid.
    Do not strive in your own strength, but lean into my love.
    Be strengthened by my spirit.
    Find comfort in my mercy.

    Your shield and defender,


    -Author unknown

  2. Eric Blackburn
    December 18, 2018 3:51 pm

    Thank you Richard for your service and your love for family and friends. Continuing to send strength, love, and prayers for Ruth, the Lavender family, and friends.

  3. Kim Waggoner
    December 18, 2018 4:42 pm

    I have admired and learned from Richard’s adoration of his wife, Ruth, and I am grateful for his service to our country.

  4. Dolly Jane Prenzel
    December 18, 2018 5:31 pm

    Oh, Ruth – I am so very sorry.
    Sending love, blessings and deep sympathy.
    Dolly Prenzel

  5. Polly Manning
    December 18, 2018 10:22 pm

    Richard was a good man, loved and honored.He will be remembered. Ruth, I am so sorry for this loss in your life. Love, Polly Manning

  6. Stan Flack
    December 19, 2018 12:17 pm

    From one vet to another, thank you Richard for your unselfish service to our great nation and your devoted love for family and friends. Yong Ae and I will continue to send strength, love, and prayers to Ruth, the Lavender family, and friends. Thank you for being everything that Ruth needed you to be when she needed it the most.

  7. K.M.
    December 21, 2018 8:00 pm

    You gave the ultimate sacrifice for your country and words cannot express our gratitude and sorrow. I am thankful to of met you and honored to get to know you even for the few short hours we visited.

    Ruth and Family, I’m truly sorry for your loss…..

  8. Carlene Waller
    February 10, 2019 8:40 pm

    You are thought of and LOVED every day from this place in God’s creation. You continue to be present because of memories you left behind. We all pray (in God’s timing) to see you soon Uncle Richard.

  9. Cat
    March 21, 2019 4:22 am

    I just heard about this tragic news. I worked with Richard at Engelhard decades ago. He was a brilliant manager, leader, and well respected by all his colleagues and friends. I didn’t know his family well. I met his first wife once , very sweet lady, but I know he was a great father and husband. He spoke of them often at the time. My condolences and prayers for Ruth and the rest of his family, friends. Ruth, we have never met but Richard surrounded himself with caring kind people and I’ have no doubt you are one of them.. My deepest condolences to You as u lost ur soulmate- that must be so difficult- I can’t even imagine but I will be praying for you. To the rest of the Lavender family, He will be remembered as for so many things. His gift to his country, his gift to the business world, his gifts to the chemical engineering field and his family values. I feel honored to have known him so many years ago.

  10. Rebecca
    March 22, 2019 3:55 pm

    I am so sorry to her about this tragic news. He was loved and adored. He was a good strong father and husband. There are never any words that truly express my gratitude for his service to this country.

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